Monday, October 31, 2005

it's monday...

i hope all you bloggers had a good weekend. i had a nice weekend. i went to a couple of halloween parties on saturday. i got to hangout with mr. k, HE called me to invite me out. i already had plans but decided to meet with mr. k for awhile before i headed out to my parties. He later met up with me at D's parties...which was not really happening so we decided to leave. I borrowed ms. j's car to take Mr. K home, he asked me to stay!!! SERIOUSLY!!!..another seriously moment...what kind of girl does he think i am!!?!?!?!? ok i spent the night...NOT!!!! i wanted to so bad and Ms. J was okay with me keeping the car until sunday morning but i kept telling myself "this is not the kind of relationship i want with Mr. K!!"and so i left. He called me last night to apologize for asking me to stay the night and he also told me that he respects me even more. he also told me that as much as he wanted me to stay he was glad i didn't....what the fuck does this mean?!?!? anywho, enough about mr. K!! okay just more thing, i really really like the guy!! ok enough!! i had fun on saturday, after i dropped of Mr. K i went back to pick Ms. J up and then we went to eat something because mr. j was really drunk and i wanted her to sober up before she headed down to her place. we went to eat and talked about all sorts of stuff...it's funny to talk to drunken individuals when your sober hehehehehe. at around 4 in the morning, yes 4!!, i decided that ms. j was ok to drive. i took myself home and then gave her the car...she only lives a few blocks away so i wasn't really worried. i slept 'til noon yesterday. i wanted to go visit the parents but i was still tired AND my daddy doesn't like me coming home alone so late...because it gets darker sooner with this whole daylight savings crap it appears to be later then it really is. Anyway, i stayed home and watched t.v., ate, slept some more, watched more t.v., argued with kachito, went to the store to get some milk to make myself some chocolate abuelita, argued some more with kachito, read, ate again, read, talked on the phone til 1 in the morning, read some more and then fell asleep. AND now i'm here at work trying to get these end of the month reports done. so there you have it...happy halloween bloggers!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! it's the bestest holiday ever!!!

9 comments:

DCNats said...

good call on not staying over... For a guy it's a fine line. Clearly you're attracted to the girl so you WANT her to stay, but at the same time you know you'll lose respect for her afterwards... which is a terribly sexist double standard, but hey, asi es.

Santiago said...

i agree with dcnationals. i'm super glad you did not stay. it is a fine line with regards to the start of the relationship. it is like getting off on the wrong foot. it will not be that easy to recover. he may have been testing you. but at the same time now he sees you as a woman with integrity. i know why test you? i really do not know why men do this.

sonrisa morena said...

you guys suck!!!! ok you don't and i really do appreciate your comments. i'm glad you read my post because really i wanted to get a guys point of view. i will keep you posted on Mr.K...aaaahhh Mr. K ;-) ok so i feel like i'm back in high school when ever i think about...stop it Sonrisa!!! STOP IT!!!

Hector said...

I'm gonna disagree with these guys. I don't know Mr. K, but sounds to me like he's trying to save face. You basically rejected him and he wants you to think that it was the right thing to do so he's ok with it. Me perdonas pero NO Guy who asks you to spend the night is going to feel very good about a rejection. Actually, the only acceptable excuse in his eyes is if the woman is on her period. I don't mean to be cynical, but as a guy, I call it as I see it.

sonrisa morena said...

so i'm confused!!! should i still continue to even be interested in this guy? my first reaction as i drove back to get ms. j was "damn him!!! what the hell does he think?!?!"...lets remember that this is when i was driving back so i was thinking alot at this point. But then he called to apologize and in my eyes he went back to being a "nice" dude again. AAAAHHHH!!!! see this is why i've kept myself out of relationships!!!

DCNats said...

Hector/Sonrisa,

I agree that Mr. K may have been trying to save face... I'm not denying that.

My only point was that Sonrisa made the right choice... Had she stayed, he would not have respected her as girl friend material... which she clearly is.

I would consider myself a nice guy, but I have tried to talk a girl into staying the night too soon, even if i thought she was girlfriend material. that's just how guys are. we think with the wrong head sometimes.

As far as Mr K being a nice guy or not, idk... just trust your gut feeling.

sonrisa morena said...

thanks dcn..i was talking to santiago last night about it and i was telling him that i was angry because i was thinking "dude, according to you, you are not ready to get into a relationship but your ready to screw me!!!" it made me feel like crap!! my gut feeling is telling me to just forget about the guy but i really do like him as a person. i don't know either...like i told santis, i'm going to take it one day at a time.hmm? maybe i'll stick to mr. motorcylce and hope something happens...hehehehe

DCNats said...

yeah, just don't make any decisions or do anything you would regret until you're sure mr. K is looking for something more substantial than a one night commitment... and with mr. motorcycle you know that he has your best intrests at heart so maybe something will happen there. good luck!

Cracked Chancla said...

that is a totally fu**ed up double standard. you can spend the night but forget about being girlfriend material? and what's up with the testing? if a girl were to start 'testing' a man, she would be called a tease. if she goes out and gets what she wants (which sometimes is exactly what men want) she's a whore. arrrggghhh.

anyhoot, i agree with hector, he must have been trying to save face. you rejected him. he wouldn't have asked if he didn't think the odds were in his favor. so i think its good that you turned him down, b/c you like him a lot and you just gave him a bit of a chase. anyhow the only other advice i can offer, from personal experience, is that a guy will keep you around even if doesn't like you that much. he's just gotta like you a little to keep you in his radar. (and they say women are complicated.) its up to you to trust your instinct as to how much this guy likes you and how much of your heart you wanna risk. i think you should make him work hard for it. suerte.