Thursday, September 27, 2007

discriminatory or just being realistic?!?!

The following is a conversation that i had with my sister Dork regarding a guy i met when i first moved to the village. This guys has been nice and sweet to me. We have talked three times and i've gone to see him play soccer once. After the soccer game he walked me home and asked me to be his girlfriend!!!! WHAT???!!!? i just met you?!!?!


Sonrisa Morena: this is my thing....i don't want to go out with him because first of all its scary to think of me being a relationship...just incase you hadn't noticed i'm terrified of them!!!! i feel that if i do end up dating him this will turn into a very very serious one. AND if i do end up dating him its because i know exactly where he lives and he knows people in the neighborhood so its not like he is a complete stranger. however, i also think that he is waaaay to close for me to be dating...for crying out loud he lives right across the street!!!

Dork: LOL...

Dork: okay....

Sonrisa Morena: and then i think...what if this my last chance? and then i think he is undocumented and he is only wanting to get that from me

Dork: umm...

Sonrisa Morena: i think too much!!!

Dork: and not mention that you guy's are probably from oppisite ends of the world...

Sonrisa Morena: yes!!!!

Dork: yeah you are both mexican...

Dork: but seriouly dork....

Sonrisa Morena: dork he doesn't speak not word of english!!!

Sonrisa Morena: my world is completely different from his!!!! come on!!! i bet if it were up to him el ya me hubiera robado!!!

Dork: you know all this is gonna come and slap you across the face...

Sonrisa Morena: i know!!!! but aren't i being discriminatory

Dork: tu con tu educacion y pues apenas si fui a la escuela y tus amigos me ven como menos...
Sonrisa Morena: yes!!!!!!!

Sonrisa Morena: holy crap!!!!!

Sonrisa Morena: i've been stressing out all this week over this!!!!

Dork: no dork you are just being realistic....

Sonrisa Morena: i wanted to talk to you about this!!!!

Sonrisa Morena: you really do understand!!!!

Dork: Like you told me when I was with Mr. Kos...if you are gonna go for it you have to have a thick skin and not let it get to you otherwise it will never work.

Sonrisa Morena: damn, i told you that?!?!??!?!

Dork: yup...

Sonrisa Morena: i don't think i will be able to have a thick skin with him...

Dork: that's what I am saying..

Dork: first of all.....

Sonrisa Morena: i've thought about taking him out with my friends and family and well it just doesn't look good

Dork: ahy.....dork you like to complicate your life.

Sonrisa Morena: seriously, like i was telling second mom, el de verdad es un rancherito

Sonrisa Morena: tell me how im complicating my life? if i haven't done anything yet...i told him that it would be best for us to get to know each other more when he asked me to be his girlfriend.

Dork: you know what I am imagining...if you go for this....

Dork: I am imagining you with your long hair again....with dresses and going to church, does that sound familiar...

Dork: oh yeah and the part of being unhappy becasue you are not being you...

Sonrisa Morena: damn!!! you be one harsh gal!!!

Dork: no dork...am just telling you the truth...

Sonrisa Morena: AND don't you think that thats why im terrified of relationships

Sonrisa Morena: with anybody not just paisitas...i think like that even with girls i've gone out with

Dork: I dunno...

Sonrisa Morena: and thats why i'm going to be alone

Sonrisa Morena: FOREVER!!!! FOR EEEEEVVVVEEERRRRRR

Dork: you get lost...

Dork: that's the problem...

Sonrisa Morena: i do!!! i really do

Dork: so then work on that...

Sonrisa Morena: i know that about me!!!

Sonrisa Morena: i've been trying too

Dork: you are like a chamelion...

Sonrisa Morena: i think i've gotten a little better

Sonrisa Morena: at least i hope i have

Sonrisa Morena: so back to your 20 pounds...

Sonrisa Morena: whats going on with you?

Dork: nothing...there is no time for anything to be going on with me

My fellow bloggers what the hell is going on with me?!?!??!?! I don't think I'm better than this guy...do i?!?!?!

6 comments:

DCNats said...

okay... I've got a couple of comments on this one... first based on my admittidly limited knowledge of Sonrisa I'd say you're more looking for excuses not to trust a man rather than looking down on him in any way.

now having said that, I would say part of your assumptions are realistic b/c having a relationship with someone that doesn't speak english IS dificult. One of the worst parts about it for me is the fact that I'm never going on a double date with Moe Greene and his wife, or any of my other of my english only friends... same goes for company functions or anything involving my non-immidiate family, Morena wants no part of it- which is understandable... but still it's not like that's a deal breaker.

plus you're signing some kind of unbreakable cell phone contract- just dating the guy. If you find out he's not for you than end it.

sonrisa morena said...

DC, i do want you!! i do want you!!!!

unforgiving b*tch said...

I'm with dcnats...you're just dating the guy. Not going down to the courthouse to get married. Of course dating someone who only speaks Spanish can be difficult, but I used to be the girl who only spoke about three words of spanish and my ex put up with it and I quickly learned the language. Either way it goes, you could be missing out on a new life experience by not giving the guy a chance.

Cracked Chancla said...

gee, just b/c he doesn't speak english doesn't mean he doesn't know the term, 'amigo con beneficios/derechos'--i know it sounds bad. (um, that's the closest i can think to explaining the concept of 'seeing' someone without being exclusive in spanish and i've heard the term used to some degree.) i guess mexican men from the old country can be so formal, from asking you to be his girlfriend after a soccer game, to the way they extend their hands to ask you out to dance at the baile. maybe just say you need to take it mas 'lento'. i don't know, i had a horrible experience, the one and only time i went on a date w/ a guy from the old country. i ended up slapping him because he got out of line and then fearing for my life on the way home because he was speeding recklessly down pulaski in an effort intimidate me and show me (in his sick way) who was boss. my momma was right, she said i should stick to pochitos like me, si no hiba sufrir mucho. so i would encourage you and him to take it lento, un dia y soccer game a la vez. y si un dia the soccer ball hits you on the head and its like cupids arrow when you look at him, well then more power to the both of you. i know, i'm rambling. its been a while.

Mariposatomica said...

Am I going to see you washing clothes by the Chicago River? Kidding! Give it a chance and be VERY CLEAR up front that you want to go extra slow.

Hey swing by the studio this Friday. Cracked Chancla will be there we are having an art open 1200 W. 35th. Art, Wine and good vibes. Speaking of art I will be in the Village next week for the art fest there. Want to go?

DCNats said...

i think we're about a week and half over do for a Sonrisa update.